Thursday, April 14, 2011

BIMBINGAN DAN KAUNSELING: MESYUARAT (TUGASAN)

BIMBINGAN DAN KAUNSELING: MESYUARAT (TUGASAN)

Sunday, April 10, 2011

understand women.


It has been a well accepted fact that men are basically clueless to whatever it is that attracts women. In fact, some reports contend that women are so hard to comprehend that even if men master how to decode their body language, still, they just could not understand women, in one way or another.

According to some studies, 3 out of 10 men are can attest that they really understand women.

The remaining 7, you ask? They are out in the haystack finding needles. This means that almost 70% of the men population in the U.S. contends that whatever they do, they still could not figure out how to understand women.

For this reason, men are having a hard time to figure out what attract women sexually and romantically in a relationship. 6 out of ten men attest that women are so unpredictable that what they thought women are attracted to, they suddenly realize in the end that it is not the right things after all.

So for those who are still confused, dazed, and perplexed on what attracts women, here is a list that could serve as your guide if you want to know how to catch your girl's attention:

1. Women are not attracted to "nice guys"

There are instances wherein some guys thought that in order to attract women, they must be good looking, smells really good, dress really good, and projects a goody-two-shoes image.

What these guys do not know is that, in reality, women are more attracted to men who project "bad-boy" image rather than those who are nice. This is because most women find nice guys relatively boring and uninteresting as compared to those who are funny and confident about themselves.

Surveys show that 30% of women value personality most. Though, this does not necessarily mean that women prefer nice personalities. What women would rather have are men who have lovable personalities brought about by their sense of humor and confidence.

The point is that some clinical studies done to uncover the truth about men and women revealed that men are, generally, more concerned with their looks, while women are more into the character and the way men behave around women.

2. Women are attracted to things that cannot be initially seen by the human eye

This goes to show that innate things, those that are not constrained by physical boundaries and limitations are what really attract women. Women are more concerned with what they cannot see literally. This could refer to personality traits, behavior, and attitude.

No wonder why most women would rather date a man who has good personality even if the guy is not good looking or he does not have a car.

3. Women are more attracted to men who knows how to handle themselves quite well

The problem with most men is that they are very egoistic that they are more focused on what the public would see them.

On the contrary, women are not so much on what makes a man but rather on how man makes out of himself. For instance, women are not concerned on the physical attributes of a man but more on how the man takes care of his body.

Another example, if a particular man is rich and famous, it may hold some possible attraction between the man and a woman. However, this will not guarantee that women will opt to have the rich and famous for a relationship. If the woman will be able to perceive how this man manages his finances well, then, that is the only time the woman will pay attention to the guy.

The point here is that material things like wealth, looks, physical attributes, education, influence, power, etc., still do matter. However, it these do not necessarily mean that these things are everything that a man needs in order to be attractive to women.

The truth is that in order to attract women, men must, generally, have nice attitude and personality. It is only when men make women feel that whenever women are with them, they would feel safe and secured.

Given all that, women and men view of the concept of attraction varies considerably. This goes to show that if ever a man would like to attract a particular woman, he should set aside his own point of view and interest, and instead, try to work out in order to catch the attention of the woman.

Sayangilah Mereka


Bayangkan setiap 15 minit berlaku perceraian ... Begitulah rapuhnya rumah tangga umat Islam di Malaysia. Rumah tangga adalah benteng terakhir ummah, tempat bermulanya tapak generasi. Jika di situ sudah bermasaalah, di tempat lain tidak dapat dibayangkan lagi. Ada sahaja kisah suami yang curang, isteri yang beralih cinta. Kekadang anak telah dua, tiga dan empat... tetapi masih ingin memburu cinta. Ada yang memburu di alam nyata (menjejak semula kekasih lama atau terjumpa kekasih baru), ada yang memburu cinta di alam siber - bencinta lewat laman sosial ienternet yang serba maya.

Entah apa yang diburu oleh manusia yang hidup di dunia tanpa menyedari hari kembalinya yang pasti ke akhirat. Di mana ditekakkan Allah dalam peta cintanya sesama manusia. Suami yang ada dipersia, lelaki lain pula dicari sebagai ganti. Konon lelakinya tidak bertanggung jawab, tidak romantik, tidak pandai membelai atau apa sahaja. Berikan nama yang buruk pada anjing dan bunuh saja! Begitu kata pepatah Inggeris. Apabila hati sudah berubah, segala kebaikan dahulu dilupakan. Isteri yang di sisi sudah setia, perempuan baru pula diburu kononnya demi cinta. Segala yang buruk-buruk dibongkar, dijadikan justifikasi untuk menghalalkan cinta baru yang digilai siang dan malam.

Manusia itu seperti kelkatu yang terbang menuju sumber cahaya. Sudah ramai yang terhantuk lalu jatuh bergelimpanagan di lantai... namun kelkatu yang lain masih terus terbang menuju tempat yang sama. Tidak pernah ada yang mengambil iktibar daripada korban-korban yang telah bergelimpangan. Maka begitulah suami dan isteri yang tertipu ini, memburu cinta bagai kelkatu memburu cahaya... Tujuan tidak akan tercapai, bahkan akan terjadi kebinasaan, namun dia pergi jua. Percayalah, tidak akan ada ketenangan dan kebahagiaan di atas kesusahan, kezaliman dan penindasan terhadap orang lain. Allah benci orang zalim! Dan kebencian itu sudah cukup untuk menyebabkan penderitaan seumur hidup.

Mengapa kau zalimi anak mu, isteri atau suami mu? Apakah dosa mereka terlalu besar hingga kau tidak sudi lagi memaafkan? Apakah kau tidak menyedari bahawa pasangan mu adalah cermin kepada diri mu sendiri? Maksudnya, siapa dia ditentukan juga oleh siapa kita yang sebenarnya? Dirimu dan pasanganmu saling mencorakkan. Ketika palitan hitam kau katakan ada pada wajahnya, sedarkah engkau bahawa kau juga yang pernah melakarkannya? Jadi, bertanggung jawablah. Jangan lari. Binalah semula rumah tangga mu... kerana cinta yang ada di tanganmu kini adalah nyata, manakala yang kau buru itu mungkin hanya fotomorgana.

Bagi suami atau isteri yang ditinggalkan... sedarkan dia. Doakan dia. Berusahalah sedaya mungkin untuk 'mengembalikan' dia kepada cinta yang nyata. Namun kalau dia berdegil, biarlah dia pergi. Hidupmu terlalu singkat untuk 'dirosakkan' oleh dia seorang. Ingat dia itu bukan cinta nombor 1!

Nombor 1 Allah. Nombor 2 Rasulullah. Nombor 3, suami). Itulah turutan cinta seorang wanita bernama isteri, (jika pada lelaki, nombor 3 itu ibu, no 4 itu apa, no 5 baru isteri). Agar tidak menderita, jagalah turutan cinta ini. Yang dahulu, wajar didahulukan. Yang kemudian, mesti dikemudiankan. Jangan disusun cinta itu begini… Nombor 1 suami. Nombor 2 suami. Nombor 3 pun suami. Ini tindakan yang bakal mengundang kecewa. Teruskan membaca kiriman ini